Divorce during the holiday can be one of the hardest time of the year. Whether you have the kids or the kids are with their other parent, figuring out what to do with the holidays can be difficult. Here are some tips to help you get through this holiday season and into the New Year!
1. Realistic Expectations
It is important to determine if your expectations of this time of year! Realistic in the sense of when you will see the kids and how to use your alone time intentionally. It is not realistic to think that you won’t be emotional during this time of year. The first year is usually the hardest and as you get used to the situation, how you handle it get better. That doesn’t mean you are okay with it or that you enjoy it. It only means that how you cope gets better.
2. Intentional Alone Time
Whether you decide to spend the holiday’s alone or spend some time with family, there will be some time where you are just alone with your thoughts. Expect this and plan for it! This could look like journaling, meditation, connecting with friends and/or family, taking a trip, or planning your goals for the new year. Design your days to get you out of the bed and out of the house! Even if it’s getting your favorite mocha latte at your local coffee shop, this can get you moving and catapult you to a successful day! Check out the Digital Daily Success Worksheet to help you get focused on getting the most out of your days!
3. Self-Love is the Best Love!
Take some time this season to write a love letter to yourself! Sit down and really focus on what you love about yourself and what makes you awesome! At the end of your letter, give yourself a task. This task could be to go run yourself a warm bath or to jam out to the song that gets you most excited. Just something that gets you out of your head and in the energy of self-love, gratitude and joy! Now, put the letter in an envelope, address it to yourself, and put it in a place where you will see it. It will be there when you need it! The next step…. open it, read it & then put it back for when you need it again!
The holidays can be hard & dealing with divorce can make it even more difficult. Planning and intentionality can help you feel more in control, in an out of control world!