Mommy guilt SUCKS! As a Mom of Twins, I know how it can make you feel like a “bad mom”. Whether you are beating yourself up over the formula vs. breast milk or disposable vs. cloth diapers, mommy guilt can take a toll on your self-confidence & decrease the joy of motherhood, especially for a new mom! Below are my 3 tips to conquer mommy guilt.
Remember that it is all in your head
It really is! Although a healthy level of second guessing is good, because you don’t want to throw the children to the wolves, it is important to understand that much of your “guilt” is either due to uncontrollable things or things that in a few years won’t much matter. Unless there are certain medical conditions, whether you use disposable diapers or cloth diapers, it will not matter once you get to the point where you are potty training.
Understand that you really are a GREAT MOM!
You truly are! I am sure that if you were to ask you kids, when they aren’t mad but calm, then they would agree! You keep them fed, clothed, and safe! In addition, you allow them to participate in things they enjoy; be it the soccer team or just throwing toys around the room before you have them clean it up! You are stellar at what you do, and that should be recognized! Don’t let mommy guilt get you discouraged!
In 10 years, your kids will only remember the good things!
In addition to remembering the ridiculously funny things that happened in their childhood, they will remember the cupcakes you made for their class and Christmas when they got exactly what they asked for! They will not remember whether you rocked them to sleep or let them cry it out, or whether their first solid food was a cookie! They won’t even remember the day you allowed them to only eat apples all day because they refused to eat anything else! Ultimately, you are worrying about things that will not matter in 10 years or sometimes even one year which is keeping your from enjoying life as a mom now!
Untamed Mommy Guilt can rob you of your joy as a mom and leave you with low self-confidence! Don’t do that to yourself! Focus on what you are doing great as a mom & how happy your kids are! Every “I love you, Mom” or hug you get from your child is a great signal that you are an AWESOME MOM doing a STELLAR JOB!
I’d love to talk to you specifically about how mom guilt is affecting your life & ways to overcome it!